Ask the Expert - Coping with Picky Eating

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This week, published author and Reflux expert Jan Gambino offers some tips for getting your picky eater to eat regular foods.

Jan Gambino, M. Ed.

Boston University, B.S. Special Education
University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill
M.Ed. Early Childhood Special Education
Experience: Author, Reflux 101
Lead Expert, The HealthCentral Network, AcidRefluxConnection site
Expertise: Infant, toddler acid reflux, feeding and feeding disorders, special needs, parent education
Website: www.refluxmom.com
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Contact: via email from website

Question: I am at my wit’s end with my picky eater! Can you give some advice on how to get her to eat regular food?

Answer:

Your baby used to eagerly anticipate every scoop of pureed peas and creamed spinach. If you didn’t scoop the food fast enough, she would yelp and complain. After the jars were empty, she was content to drink an entire bottle. Now your toddler turns away when you present anything green and healthy and shrieks with anger if you dare put a new food on her plate. A “meal” consists of a few bites of chicken nuggets and a sip or two of milk from a cup before she leaps up to chase the dog or rearrange her toys. So what happened?

Along the way, your baby has turned into an independent, opinionated little person called a toddler! She has learned to control her world in such grand ways-from crawling to walking and then climbing, offering new ways to challenge herself. Communication has taught her the power of words with “no” being the one that really tickles her! She is finding that she has the ability to make decisions and communicate her wants and needs.

She is beginning to get longer and leaner too. The rapid growth of the first year is slowing down and her body is changing. So are her eating habits. It makes sense that she will use her new skills to explore new ways of eating.

Toddlers are often labeled as picky eaters. A picky eater is a child who eats only a few foods from a few food groups. For instance, a child may eat 5 foods over and over again. Typically a picky eater will crave carbohydrates and omit fruits and vegetables. I call this the “White Diet” or “Prison Diet”. During the toddler years, my daughter was on the White Diet and would only eat chicken nuggets, mashed potatoes, crackers and dry cereal. I was worried that she was missing vital vitamins and nutrients from her limited eating. The pediatrician assured me that this was very common and somehow, most children continue to grow and thrive despite such a limited diet.

Top Tips for Coping with a Picky Eater:

Leave your emotions at the Kitchen Door: Remember, picky eating is normal and she will most likely emerge from this stage and expand her diet. Try not to show your anger or disappointment about her picky eating. Do not negotiate, offer bribes or withhold dessert. This just fuels the fire.
Routines: Try to eat at least one meal per day as a family. Little ones model our behavior whether we want them to or not. Maybe if she sees you eating fruits and vegetables over and over again, she will eventually decide to try some.
Kitchen Helper: An older toddler can “help” you in the kitchen. My daughter loved ripping the lettuce and making a salad each night. We told her how delicious the salad was and she beamed with pride. It was a full year before she decided to take a nibble of her handiwork!
Vitamins and Minerals: A picky eater may benefit from a multivitamin with minerals. Check with your doctor.
Nutrition Drinks: Some picky eaters may benefit from a nutrition drink made for children ages 1-12 years. It can be served as a substitute for a meal, added to a shake or smoothie or used in cooking instead of milk (i.e.: pudding pancakes).
Hide the Oreos: I kept my emergency chocolate supply on a high shelf. The “snack drawer” was full of healthy snacks within her reach: crackers, pretzels, raisins, nuts. That way, she was not tempted by unhealthy food choices.
Little Stomachs/Little Meals: Make sure you are offering small portions to your toddler. In the morning, she ate breakfast followed by her “fruit snack”. My picky eater ate half her lunch at noon and then in the afternoon, her “snack” consisted of the other half of her lunch. After dinner, if she was still hungry, it was time for her “yogurt snack”.
Play with your food: Make sure mealtime is enjoyable and playful. Bring out the special silverware and plates (with your child’s favorite character on it of course); invite a friend to join you. Eat in a new place: on a big rock, on the top of the jungle gym or in a kid friendly restaurant.

Remember, your picky eater will be a teenager before you know it and will surely eat you out of house and home! Good luck and happy eating!

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